A Bit Disabled And Very Gay

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yandere-angela

every time i see discourse about pedohysteria amidst a trans genocide i think about that news article from 2016 about the mexican immigrant who voted for trump because trump said he’d get rid of all the “bad hombres” from mexico, only to be deported himself because it turns out what trump was really saying was that he wanted to deport all mexicans, not just “the bad ones”

not just him, but there were many other examples too, like white conservatives who have mexican immigrant friends and family or people in the community important to them who were mexican immigrants, and they voted for trump because they thought trump was just getting rid of “criminals”, and then they regret it when their families and communities get torn apart by deportations of their spouses, their friends, their favourite restaurant owners, etc.

anyways, i hope young queers, trans people esp, understand that when conservatives talk about “pedophiles” and “groomers”, they’re not talking about actual child abusers, they’re talking about all queer people. they’re talking about all trans people. it’s why in florida, they’re categorizing “drag” as a child sex crime, and making sex crimes against children punishable by death. they’re trying to execute every single trans person, and that’s just the rhetoric they’re using

so stop buying into the pedohysteria. it’s easy to think “well, i’m not a pedophile, so i’ll be safe” when you don’t realize that in the eyes of conservatives, every single queer person is a pedophile and deserves death, and contributing to their rhetoric by trying to figure out which trans woman is a pedophile is just accelerating your own march to the gallows

vaspider

When I was in school, the argument – and in fact the standard belief – was that no gay person, ever, could be a teacher, because all gay people were pedophiles and groomers. It was for the “safety of children.” Lesbians and gay men couldn’t be allowed in locker rooms with “normal” people because we would ogle and assault them. Every gay, every lesbian, every trans person, every bi person (pan didn’t really exist as a term then) had the assumption of being a sex offender just waiting for an opportunity.

Literally everything they say about trans people now, they said about gay people 30 years ago.

There are people right now in government trying to outlaw gay marriage again, saying that Pete Buttigieg – the human equivalent of a Wonder Bread pb&j sandwich, as wholesome in image as they come – shouldn’t be allowed to raise his children because he’s abusing his children by raising them. People on Twitter have started openly calling for rounding up and executing anyone who ever helped a minor access HRT - parents, doctors, nurses, the receptionist who checked us in for my daughter’s appointments - and while those are only random people online, that isn’t a thing you saw happening frequently just a couple of years ago. Louder voices have started calling for mentally ill people – starting with trans and gay people – to lose our rights to vote.

Do I think queer people are being rounded up right now? No. Do I see the rhetoric escalating? Yes. Is it aimed at all of us? Oh yes.

Groomer, pedo, degenerate, freak: they mean all of us. There are no exceptions. If you think there are, you’re fooling yourself.

Join, or Die.

hollowboobtheory
hollowboobtheory

unironically people need to learn to say “they haven’t done anything wrong i just find them annoying”

gummiebun

I personally think people need to understand that if someone hasn’t wronged you or anyone else, you should NOT dislike them. You don’t have to like them; just remain neutral.

hollowboobtheory

nope! this is the kind of attitude the leads to you picking apart every little thing a person does digging through their past for dirt and problematizing everything about them, exaggerating harm, assuming the worst about them, putting words in their mouth, etc, to justify the fact that you simply don’t vibe with them when the truth is that you will not get along with everybody you meet in life and it’s extremely possible to be civil to someone you don’t like. you don’t have to be friends with everybody its fine. it’s certainly nicer than falsely accusing them of some heinous shit rather than admit that you’re not some Disney princess who’s never had an unfairly mean thought in her life and loves everybody and sings with little birdies and is never bitchy or irritable. sometimes you get annoyed for stupid reasons and understanding that your personal feelings about a person aren’t necessarily related to their morals or worthiness as a human being is the first step to being a civil adult.

bebsi-cola
bebsi-cola

disabled people have talked already about how inappropriate it is to touch or grab their mobility aids. but less often i think do people know how to act if they were asked to hold, retrieve, or touch someone's aid (such as crutches or canes as these are the aids i have used and am familiar with)

being friends, family, or partners with a disabled person doesn't grant permission to touch their aids at any time. furthermore having permission to touch an aid - to hold it, pick it up, or retrieve it etc - doesn't give permission to touch or play with them as you please. while keeping in mind that different people's boundaries will vary, here are some things not to do with someone mobility aid:

  • don't fiddle, stim, or play with it
  • don't wave it or swing them around
  • don't hold it by the handle the owner uses to utilize it
  • do not use the device
  • do not "test it out"
  • do not lean your weight on it
  • [in the case of crutches] do not use them to hop or otherwise take your feet off the ground for fun
  • try not to drop them or make them unclean
  • do not adjust any settings
  • do not use them as a weapon or play-weapon
  • do not walk immediately behind the air user/out of sight
  • try not to flip them upside down


what you should do instead:

  • return the aid immediately when asked. no delays because you were not done with them
  • hold the aid(s) upright, out of the way from other people by the main body
  • ask before touching or negotiate times when it is okay to grab without asking (such as if they have been dropped or are falling)
  • give the aid user increased space and distance to use them safely
  • try to make sure you aren't forcing an aid user to walk on a sloped path (such as on the pavement/sidewalk)


most importantly, don't take someone's boundaries around their mobility device personally, regardless of how close you two are. disabled people deserve autonomy over the things that support and supplement their body functions just as much as their own body.

fibrofox
animal-crossing

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coolstopbotheringme

There was a massive increase in suicides because of the lockdowns.

emmaubler

My favorite thing about this study is that when you read further, they excluded young people, children, people in poor socioeconomic countries/situations, and people with preexisting mental health issues. So other than that . . . .

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thebibliosphere

Lockdown was legitimately not much different for me as a chronically ill, disabled person who'd been homebound for several years due to my multiple disabilities. The only real difference was that I was no longer crushingly alone because other people were also home and suddenly remembered I existed.

Seeing those same people then compare my lived existence for the last seven years as being torturous and inhumane was both infuriating and validating.

As was seeing all the accommodations like work from home and distance learning which people like me had always been told were impossible to implement and would take too much effort. And yet companies swiveled on a dime and managed it pretty much overnight. Sure, it was a scramble and stressful, but could you imagine how much easier it would have been if they'd implemented these accommodations more widely for disabled people prior to a global pandemic?

Accommodations which, by the way, are now being taken away again. Why? Fuck you, that's why.

The main thing my mental health will never recover from, however-- along with the crushing weight of all the people that died and continue to die -- was seeing and continuing to see how many people consider my death as an acceptable statistic in the crusade to "get back to normal."

Fuck you. There was no acceptable "normal" before. You just didn't care about us.

How did you not come out of this experience totally radicalized and ready to fight for disabled people? Where's your fucking rage? Where's your humanity?

neuroticboyfriend
magz

black cat momma laying down on the floor, while black kittens suckle on her.ALT

ID: Black cat laying down as 3 black kittens suckle on her. End ID.

Magz unexpectedly become responsible for abandoned stray cat, who gave birth around Magz's water heater (?) outside. (pet shelter full)

Magz mentally n physically disable black mixed person in "third world", in neurology treatment. Magz became nonspeak* and full-time AAC user, from degenerative condition.

If want help (optional, only do if can):

Added a few pet supply and helpful disability items to wishlist.

Magz have art commission open and pay links. (new links)

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Previous Magz dono posts context: [December 2022] [March 2023]

magz

am genuinely having hard time now - physically, emotionally, and financially.

magz genuinely at limit overall despite try best and other options.

one the kittens very sick, too.

neuroticboyfriend
miss-beloved

anyways reminder that scars of any kind are morally neutral and not bad or harmful to show. if that shit is healed and not a literal open wound it is not fucking bad. it is not okay to shame or trigger warning a normal fucking part of someone’s body, including and especially when it’s a sign of physical or mental illness.

miss-beloved

look every single time I make posts like this someone comes on my post like “not self harm scars though! those are triggering!” and fucking. think about what you’re implying for just one second here. you’re saying that if anyone has ever even once hit a mental point where they harmed themself in a way that left a lasting mark they can never show their body uncensored again. this is okay to you? you think this is fucking okay?

narrator-navigator-storyteller

also, to expand on this: do not assume you know what are and aren't self harm scars. i have 'traditional self harm scar' looking scars that are not self harm, just that i have a cat and scar easily. i have scars that do not look like self harm scars that very much are. you do not have the right to go up to someone and ask "hey, what are you scars from so i can decide if i can censor your body?", nor the right to assume the origin of someone's scars in order to censor their body. In general, no one's scars or any other part of their body is your business

miss-beloved

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HEY THIS IS A BANGER FUCKING LINE.

neuroticboyfriend

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#the human condition can not be censored #and the human condition is fucking scarred

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